DEAR DEIDRE: WHENEVER we go out together, my boyfriend prioritises his friends over me.
We can be at a party and he’ll immediately make a beeline for his mates.
When it’s time to leave, he will take me home but then rejoin the fun.
He even asks other people to make sure I get home all right sometimes.
We get along like a house on fire, but this is now an issue.
If I complain that his friends haven’t talked to me, he blames me for not making an effort.
I’m 23 and my boyfriend’s 25.
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At his best mate’s wedding, he left me with his cousin for more than three hours.
Then when we were ready to leave, he gave his cousin the hotel key and asked her to accompany me because he was still speaking to a few of his friends.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Many men feel the need to act “cool” in front of their friends, which often includes ignoring their girlfriends.
He’s trying to fit in with his mates and he doesn’t know how to do that with you there.
Sadly, this is a sign of his immaturity and can be really hurtful to you.
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Explain how you feel and ask for changes.
But if his behaviour stays the same, consider if he is mature enough for a relationship.
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